This is a specially curated selection of some of my best material from the last 10+ years -- all so you can stop whining and start winning.

That’s why I created a FREE ebook containing some of my most warm and optimistic guidance on life, complete with my favorite inspirational quotes and self-affirmations.

Just kidding.

As my father did for me, I’m going to give it to you straight. The role of an Asian father is to push you to be your best, teach you good habits, and take no excuses. Life isn’t all rainbows and unicorns. It’s about the hustle. And it’s time you get your head out of the clouds and start kicking serious ass.

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Here’s what you’ll learn in this free ebook:

  • How to stop feeling overwhelmed, let go of “should do’s” and stop waiting for inspiration to strike.
  • The way I stopped feeling guilty by changing my self-talk (no, I’m not talking about New Age healing rituals)
  • The secret to conquering self- sabotage and getting out of your own way

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I once held a “Therapy Week” for my readers where they wrote in with their deepest problems, what things were holding them back, etc.

You know what’s interesting? A lot of people CLEARLY knew what their problem was. They obviously think about it every day, and they’re quite adept at knowing exactly what’s holding them back. But the comments were DISTURBING. If I had any emotions or functioning tear ducts, I would have cried. So many of the comments I read focused on our own negative self-talk, self-sabotage, procrastination, not being accountable of ourselves…

How many of us tear ourselves down over all the things we should be doing? And what’s the solution? Am I going to tell you to look up to the stars, raise your outstretched arms, and sing a spiritual hymn together? No, I’m not a life-coach, and that serves no practical purpose in life.

Yes, you ARE responsible for being stuck. No, it’s not your mom, or society, or the heteronormative patriarchal bonds that hold you down. (Do they have an influence on all of us? Of course. Can we control them? No.) But you can control one thing: yourself. This might be uncomfortable to hear, but it’s the straight truth. Learn more in my ebook Surrogate Asian Father.

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